If you’ve read much of the main Survive-Divorce.com site, you probably already have a pretty good feel for my stand on parenting through a Divorce. I think it’s the most important issue there is! Let’s face it, the adults will survive, they understand what’s going on, but the kids are pretty much caught in the middle. Not only do they not really have the capacity to fully understand what’s going on, but they don’t get to make many of the choices in the situation. When Custody begins to be addressed, all too often the adults let their anger and hurt feelings affect their judgment about what’s really right for the kids.
I am always on the lookout for unbiased, progressive ideas regarding Custody arrangements and recently I came across some resources that you might find extremely helpful. Psychologists Dr. Barry Bricklin and Dr. Gail Elliot have teamed up to put together some Child Custody strategies that are written with specific focus on the issue from the perspective of the individual parent. As a man, your approach to the Custody portion of your Divorce may require different specific strategies than those of your ex-spouse. I think that you’ll find their ebook to be an excellent guide to the process you are going through. Take a look for yourself and see if you don’t think agree.
Throughout the site, I always strive to help people reduce the “war” factor in their divorce, but while I am an advocate for a more peaceful, thoughtful approach to Divorce, I’m not blind to the fact that you may be in a situation where you need to get fully informed, and take aggressive steps to safeguard your own interests and those of your children. I hate to see either parent get sidelined in the lives of their children just because Mom and Dad can’t get along anymore. Don’t let that happen to you, it’s not right for you and it’s not right for your kids! If you don’t think the resource I’ve linked to here is right for you, please don’t stop looking! You owe it to your kids to make sure they have the best chance at having two fully involved parents in their lives, for the rest of their lives!
Jon
Thank you for this info! I enjoyed it.
I actually read an article about how fathers get custody more often than women due to how the “Tender Years Doctrine” was removed from the court. However, I’m not familiar with any other advice on how fathers can handle custody in proper fashion. This e-book might offer some insight about it. Thanks for the info.