Custody issues - for the Women

Ok ladies, if you’ve read much of the main Survive-Divorce.com site, you probably already have a pretty good feel for my stand on parenting through a Divorce.  I think it’s the most important issue there is!  Let’s face it, the adults will survive, they understand what’s going on, but the kids are pretty much caught in the middle.  Not only do they not really have the capacity to fully understand what’s going on, but they don’t get to make many of the choices in the situation.  When Custody begins to be addressed, all too often the adults let their anger and hurt feelings affect their judgment about what’s really right for the kids.  I know that at this point in your life, taking any advice from a man might be the farthest thing from your mind, but if you’ll give me just a minute or two, I think this is really important.

I am always on the lookout for unbiased, progressive ideas regarding Custody arrangements and recently I came across some resources that you might find extremely helpful.  Psychologists Dr. Gail Elliot and Dr. Barry Bricklin have teamed up to put together some Child Custody strategies that are written with specific focus on the issue from the perspective of the individual parent.  As a woman, your approach to the Custody portion of your Divorce may require different specific strategies than those of your ex-spouse.  I think that you’ll find their ebook to be an excellent guide to the process you are going through.  Take a look for yourself and see if you don’t think agree.

Please resist the urge to assume that the Father of your Children no longer needs to be heavily involved in their lives, just because you want him out of your life!  It takes two parents to raise good kids, and so as you go through this Divorce, the Custody issue is one that you need to try to address with ONLY the best interest of your kids as the primary concern.  The resources put together by Dr. Elliot and Dr. Bricklin are geared towards that end, and they are written so that your specific perspective as a Mother are taken into account.  If you don’t think this is the particular information you need, please keep looking for balanced, objective guidance to this all important aspect of your Divorce.